Two mummy friends are going through a rough patch in their marriage. Both their troubles involve their husband's extra marital affairs :( Both lost substantial weight in the process. But one huge difference is that one will post cryptic messages in her FB so that casual friends reading them won't know what exactly is the problem; the other fought very publicly with her husband on FB.
Earlier this week, i was reading a newspaper article to my poly students in which a local sociologist commented:
"You don't just read about these high-fliers in the papers, but you actually find them in your office, neighbourhood and among your peers. So how can you not be drawn into the competition?"
In the same way, during my growing up years, we hardly know of divorces, special needs children or cancer patients among our relatives and friends. But now i personally know of these cases. Well, it's either more prevalent now (in absolute quantity) or it's now a more open society. Probably both.
What will never change is that we'll all need support and concern from family and friends when faced with these circumstances. So when i'm "drawn into" my friends' problems, i try to be an encouragement at least, even if it doesn't help much to resolve the difficulties. It's sometimes easier to pass judgement on people who air dirty linens so publicly, but i try to think that it must have been such as a burden to carry that it's a relief to "share" their problems.
At this point of time, it seems that the outlook of both my friends' marriages isn't good. i only hope that their kids suffer as minimal as possible in this process :(
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